Lately, there are a lot of people tossing the word “geek” around as the new cool label in town.  Personally, I don’t quite remember this to be the case when I was in high school.  I know that many geeks, including myself, wished that being flagged as a “geek” got them the attention of that cute boy or girl, or better yet, the homecoming king or queen title.  Nevertheless, geeks grew up being themselves.  They were devoted to their studies and passionate of all intellectual things, especially science and technology.  They hardly had any time to mingle in social activities that most other teenagers were able to attend or experience, such as homecoming, bonfires, and chaperoned house parties with the cool, popular kids.

Today, geeks can attribute their success through their smarts, hard work, and passion to solve problems.  It is true that geeks shall inherit the earth.  We have already seen a small glimpse of this happening.  The tech geekette Justine Ezarik, also famously known as iJustine, casually hangs out with Ashton Kutcher.  Hollywood celebs, LeVar Burton and Tony Hawk, gave a talk at the Twitter Conference in front of a live audience of tech geeks.  Chamillionaire, a talented rapper, is now a staple at tech events.  The tech community is slowly merging with the glitz and glamour of Hollywood and forming as one.

Is this a good sign for the Silicon Valley geeks and community?  Yes and no.  Hollywood, endearingly referred as Tinseltown, is one of the few superficial central hubs in the U.S. that survives solely on good looks, fame, and money. The glamour of Tinseltown attracts huge mass media, both nation and worldwide.  By combining efforts of tech and Hollywood, the geeks are finally being recognized and praised for their contribution and impact to society.

On the down side, the merge may cause the seemingly innocent and untainted geek world to experience a bit of the superficial Hollywood effect.  In L.A., a single, young, and attractive individual who can turn heads, sometimes can find love to be a bit difficult.  They are competing with other beautiful people that have better surgically enhanced traits.  They are being judged on their looks every day.  Gold diggers, both males and females, run abundant in Hollywood, while the powerful and wealthy men and women have the pick of the crop of the superficially enhanced.  As a result, it’s hard to know whether the person is genuine or not.

Silicon Valley has inherited some of the superficial Hollywood effect.  Sometimes, it feels as though the tech bubble is trapped in a rap video. Scantily-clad dressed women are hired to work at booths at tech conferences to promote new startups and products.  Some of these male geeks have tried creating a special application for the iPhone to locate “geek diggers.”  Instead of a time where smart women should be praised for their mind and not as sexual objects, this outlook is going to have the female geeks work ten times harder than they have already been doing to gain the respect in an industry that is predominantly all male.

Will these geeks be able to find love or be seduced by all the fun of the glitz and glamour that Tinseltown has trickled into Silicon Valley? According to the Wall Street Journal and other blogs, they believe that Silicon Valley is the new hot spot for young professionals to find love.  This comes as good news, but personally, I believe that finding love might be tougher than before.  It’s already hard for an attractive, single person to survive and find love in the superficial world, but to have a geek be sucked into this new found fame and power when they never experienced this kind of attention previously, it’s going to be a bit more brutal and overwhelming.

What does this mean to all of us?  It just means that the tech social scene has been reinvented.  Silicon Valley has been spooning Hollywood over the past few years.  If it were not for the birth of Facebook and Twitter, no one would believe that Silicon Valley and Hollywood have been and are currently forking each other.  Nevertheless, as geeks, we’re smart and able to adapt to situations and find solutions to problems.  Tim Ferriss, for example, outsourced his love life by hiring individuals to set up dates for him.  Developers are constantly creating dating websites and iPhone applications.  There are love coaches that specialize in helping geeks find love.  These methods may not work for all of us, but it’s in the right direction.  Yes, it’s going to be a tough journey, but I truly believe there’s hope in finding love in Silicon Valley and San Francisco.  Don’t you?

As discussed in the previous post, geeks can be awkward when it comes to social situations, especially talking to girls.  To be fair, I have included in this post a non-geek’s approach on how to get a girl.  At the end of the day, both the geeks and non-geeks are looking to meet the right person.  We all want that best friend who we can love and who loves us back.  Courting the opposite gender and trying to date were never formally taught to any of us.  We all had to learn it through our peers and environment, which played significant roles on how we interact in the dating game today.

Personally, I love geeks.  There’s nothing sexier than a stimulating mind.  Ok, I have to admit, sexy abs are amazing.  A body like David Beckham is a turn-on.  For men, it could be the body of supermodel Marisa Miller.  Obviously, exercising, being fit, and living healthy are all important to the SV Bachelorette and most other singles.  However, a stimulating mind is much more attractive than a body made of steel and perfection.  Anyone who has discipline can work out and have a sexy body; whereas being smart requires a bit more effort.  Tim Ferriss is a very good example of this.  He’s a geek who transformed his image in less than four weeks to an amazing, toned body.  He now has the best of both worlds – smart mind and attractive body.

With all that said above, it really comes down to finding that compatible person.  What one may find awkward and annoying, may be lovable and endearing to another.  How to find that compatible guy or girl is all based on timing and survival skills in the dating jungle.  Dating is tough and sometimes more of a pain than what it’s worth.  We all thought that at one point or another.  However, each person we meet that is incompatible, we learn a new lesson on what to do or not to do.  It’s just one step closer to finding your perfect guy or girl.

Cheer up.  The non-geeks are equally as confused as the geeks on how to get a girl.  Want to hear it straight from the non-geek himself?  Yes, he’s a San Francisco local and normally hangs out in the Marina.

[*Please be warned that this video may be a bit annoying, especially if you’re watching it sober.]

Recap of the “The Non-Geek’s Guide to Getting a Girl.”

1. Knows how to not fake awesome.
2. Best pick-up line:  “Ladies, I’m single and I have no standards.”
3. Make loud mating calls.  The ladies will hear it and will find you irresistible.
4. Use lots of body language, especially the fist in the air, to show your amount of testosterone.  This turns on the ladies.
5. Non-Geek’s Advice:  “Be a jerk.  Girls love that.”
6. Wear large dark shades in the bar to show how cool you are.
7. Refer your biceps as guns and flex them several times with your buddies.  The ladies will feel protected.